With the stigma around our sexual health, speaking to a gynecologist about specific issues can be tricky. One of the biggest reasons most of us shy away from asking questions about our sexual health is fear of judgment. It is important to remember that gynecologists are professionals trained to answer all your queries so that you can enjoy optimal health. Here are the most commonly asked ‘embarrassing’ questions at the gynecologist’s office:

Does it look normal?
Many women often worry about how their vulva looks. Like the rest of our bodies, vulvas come in all different shapes, sizes, and characteristics. There is no one-size-fits-all look, so there is nothing to feel self-conscious about. However, if you notice abnormal changes or growths, talk about them with your gynecologist. Since gynecologists are used to seeing several of them daily, they are the best person to clarify all your concerns.

Do I need to shave/wax/groom before my visit?
Having to strip down in the gynecologist’s office can be intimidating for many people, especially if it’s your first time. Many women feel they would be judged for their personal grooming practices and hair growth around their vagina. So unless you have a bump or a concerning spot covered by pubic hair, you do not need to worry about having to groom before your visit. Come as you are!

Why does my vagina smell?
The vagina is a complex yet delicate ecosystem of microbes and secretions, so it can never be odorless. The smells are also a result of daily events and lifestyle practices such as food, exercise, weather, sexual activity, and even the material of our underwear.
However, it is essential to recognize usual smells from unusual ones. For example, if you notice a pungent, fishy odor coming from your vagina, it could signify a fungal or bacterial infection and warrant medical attention.

Can I visit when I’m on my period?
The answer to this depends on the reason for your visit. If you are scheduled for a pap smear, it is better to reschedule your appointment because there are chances that the lab will reject your bloodwork due to too many red blood cells that skew your reports. So if you visit the gynecologist to discuss painful, heavy periods or clotting, it’s best to visit while bleeding. That way, your doctor can examine what you’re experiencing firsthand and advise accordingly.

I’ve been feeling itchy down there. Is it normal?
Itching could result from various reasons, such as a fungal infection, sensitivity to detergents or soaps, inflammatory skin conditions, or even razor burn. It’s rarely a sign of something serious in pre-menopausal women. Switch to cotton underwear and avoid using scented products down there. If the itching persists, visit your doctor and have it checked out.

Why is sex painful for me?
Intercourse can be painful for various reasons, such as muscle spasms, ovarian cysts, endometriosis, vaginal atrophy, lack of adequate lubrication, or even psychological reasons. Talk to your doctor for a proper diagnosis.

Why can’t I have an orgasm?
According to certain studies, 10-20 percent of women have difficulties having an orgasm during partnered sex. However, you do not need to feel embarrassed about this. Instead, speak to your gynecologist about the treatment options to make sex a more enjoyable experience.

How often should I test for STIs?
Often STIs do not cause symptoms and can go undiagnosed unless you get regular screening. According to experts, all women under 25 must routinely get tested for chlamydia and gonorrhea. Women over 25 in new relationships must also test for these conditions. For example, suppose you are unsure about your partner’s status. In that case, it may also be advisable to get an annual test for other infections such as trichomonas, HIV, syphilis, and hepatitis B and C. If you have more than one sexual partner and prefer not to use condoms, you may want to get tested more often.

Testing and transmission may differ for other conditions, such as herpes (HSV-1 and 2), which can be transmitted even when you are not having an outbreak. Speak to your doctor about ways to prevent the spread of and protect yourself from this virus.